What do you want from life?
To Carl Spackler in the movie 'Caddyshack' receiving 'total consciousness' on his deathbed was enough...
Is that enough for you... or do you want just a little more from your life? Is this all your life purpose is?
What is it that you do want? Do you know what you want - what you TRULY want?
A lot of people don't know what they want, and this is the worse possible thing: they are walking around just putting in their time - what happens, happens and they just continue to let it happen. This goes back to the idea of "If you don't know where you are going, how will you know when you have gotten there?".
Then, there are the people who may not know what they want, but they do know what they DON'T want. It's not much, but it is progress. Someone walking this road only needs to take the time to evaluate their life through a thorough introspection and they would be surprised at what they would find. Through defining themselves: the things that motivate amd inspire them, the beliefs and standards they hold dear... they can find who and what they are, and what they WANT from life. They can then begin the process of goal-setting and accountibility in their journey forward.
And once you know what you want from life, you have taken your first step on your road to getting it.
But, is that all there is to it? No, not in the least - are you living the empowered life you should be? Not really, you just know what you want - to truly live the outstanding and empowered life you deserve. Now, you are going to have to make it happen.
I also want you to remember to make this next step a realistic one for you. You just don't want to bite off more than you can chew, but you do need to make sure you do take a bite that will get you started toward your goal.
You need to move forward at a pace that you are comfortable with, just not too comfortable. You want to stay just a bit ahead of your personal 'comfort zone'.
Now, I need to warn you: as you begin to invest your time and energy in your goal you will find that there are some things which quickly start to change for you:
* Your sense of who you are.
* The relationships you have with others.
* And, believe it or not - your goal itself will start to change. Yep, you read that right: as you pursue your goal, it will begin to change, maybe a little, maybe a lot, but it will definitely change.
Be prepared - this is completely natural.
Life is a system, an evolution - consisting of so many parts. When you begin to actively change one part of that system (going after your goal), all other parts of the system will change. This evolution of your life will make you re-evaluate your goal.
Just remember to remain calm as you watch all these changes unfold in front of your eyes - yes, you will feel uncertain at times, exhilerated at others and downright scared at still others... but trust yourself, keep your cool and with your calm determination you will reach your goal.
Just don't be surprised if your goal ends up looking VERY different from what you first visualized.
Ok... ready, set, GO!!!
Now here is where it starts to get a little more involved for you: ask yourself - "What is stopping me from getting what I want?"
Let's start with the external reasons you might identify - these are the things outside of yourself that may be factors in achieving your goals:
* You want to move to a new job or even a new career - you might find that you need education to move into it.
* You want to move to a far-away land for a year, two, the rest of your life - how do you afford that. (Basically - you know what you want, you are capable of getting it, you deserve to get it, but you just don't have the resources at hand that you need to get it.) Now, it just becomes a matter of goal-setting and accountability in remining true to those goals and attaining them.
Generally, most external factors can be fixed - but, sometimes a dose of reality comes in handy here in considering that say... you are 54, and wish that you could drive a car in the Paris to Dakar Road Rally... well, kinda not going to happen - the actual Paris/Dakar rally is no longer and the replacement doesn't interest me all that much. Reality. You see where I am going here though - sometimes there are actual physical constraints, that are beyond your control, against what you may want.
If you encounter one of those, a work-around can be generally be found - ya just gotta look for it.
Moving away from the external roadblocks you may encounter I'm going to focus on some inner reasons you may have:
* Assumptions: Assumptions mask themselves as protective mechanisms that try to keep us safe from experiencing some kind of suffering we have experienced in the past.
An example of this is when you are confronted with something new, the assumptions you hold will kick in with an internal response like "To keep you safe, remember the last time something like this happened - it wasn't pretty...".
When you realize that your assumption is trying to "keep you safe" (even though it's actually holding you back), you can begin to work with that belief.
And let me tell you: when you identify the assumptions that have been holding you back... and start to showing yourself how they really are not true - get out of your own way, you will NOT believe what you can ACHIEVE!!!
Self-empowerment is just the BEGINNING! Your life will open up in ways you never dreamt of!
Once again, here is something in your path that can be a bit tricky: some of the assumptions we hold about our selves, others, and the world around us can be rooted in our distant past and sometimes... are hard to uncover.
If you feel that you have some assumptions that are holding you back, but you're finding it hard to identify and constructively deal with them... there are Life Coaches, therapists, and counsellors out there who are professionally trained to help you.
* Another inner conflict that can hold us back are the Limiting beliefs we have about so many different things. These are situations where you don't have any personal experience to draw on but you have let an limiting belief creep in that really does not have any REAL basis.
"Girls and women can't do this or that... "
"If you didn't grow up on the 'right side of the tracks' - you'll never make it very far..."
"People my age... "
These are unfounded beliefs that we have all heard and some people hold them as barriers to achieving everything they should.
* And the greatest of all barriers we allow ourselves are the Gremlins that sit on our shoulders and tell us how we "just aren't good enough", "don't think that big", "you... really don't belong here, these people actually know what they are doing", "you are out of you league"...
Gremlins are those life crippling beliefs that lie to us, hold us back, and all the while telling us about how lucky we are to have them there - sitting on our shoulders protecting us.
All the while imprisoning us and holding us back from the truly wonderful lives we all deserve!
Did I tell you that the search for your wonderful life may not be easy going sometimes? Nothing really worthwhile ever is, but I can tell from my own experience and the people I have worked with - and the journey never really ends, it is trip that you won't believe and once you start -
you will NEVER want to turn around, jump off, or slow down!
How far do you want your life to take you? Let me know and we can work on getting you there.